Here is the thing. About 90% of the Poly women I meet through all sources are married or a functional equivilent. Of those, about 50% are in a functionally or actually monogamous marriage. And an additional 40% exclude the possibility of a male partner.
Of those in monogamous marriages, nearly all, about 80% of the women are very attracted to me in some signifigant way.
Which has led to some very very frustrating experiences, because I'm not willing to be the back door man. This has also led me to despise those couples who have gender exclusions in their Poly relationships.
Interestingly enough, the vast majority of married (or equivilant) Poly women are attracted to me, while the vast majority of single poly women are not.
If anyone has any insights please feel free to share.
*note* All percentages are guestimates based on personal reflection and as such are subject to a +/- 10% error.